HOW I WORK
Often the word ‘therapy’ is used whether you’re seeking counselling or psychotherapy. Counselling initially might address a current or specific concern such as a work issue, or a relationship difficulty. The process is still one of careful listening and dialogue. Often, a current concern will have links with past experience. Psychotherapy involves meeting once a week or more often, long-term or an open-ended way. It explores the rich tapestry of your life from childhood onwards, and looks deeply within to uncover unconscious patterns and inner conflicts. This is a challenging and enlightening journey.
As an Integrative therapist, I'm trained in a range of modalities, so I tailor my approach to suit your needs. I'm informed by several theoretical traditions, including humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioural, transpersonal, existential and body-oriented therapy. Monitoring our embodied states is particularly important, since emotions are physiological events, created, felt and regulated through the body.
I'm a relational therapist, which means our real relationship, and its exploration, will likely be part of our work. How you and I relate may mirror how you relate to other people in your life. This can be a significant area of enquiry. Relational work also means that I see us as two human beings in the room, not as one expert and one 'patient.' I intend to be honest, open and curious when I reflect with you. I can only be myself. If I get it wrong, I intend to be honest about that too, and see how we can learn and grow from it, as often this situation presents an opportunity for more intimacy between us. As a wise friend once said to me, I've learnt so much from my mistakes that I plan on making some more!
I don't take the 'blank screen' approach, meaning I don't stare at you in silence. While giving you enough space to reflect and process is important, if I don't share my thoughts with you, the therapy is only taking place in my head. I provide a non-judgemental and loving space, where I value you for the unique individual you are. This kind of environment can be rare to find, and powerful to experience. Clients have said that they feel cared for and supported by me, and that they've made important discoveries and gained fresh insights.