HOW I WORK

Often the word 'therapy' is used whether you're seeking counselling or psychotherapy.  Counselling generally addresses a current or specific concern, such as work issues, or a relationship difficulty. We'd meet weekly for an agreed period. The process is still one of relating, careful listening and dialogue. Psychotherapy involves meeting weekly or more often, long-term or in an open-ended way. It explores the tapestry of your life from childhood onwards, and looks deeply within to uncover unconscious patterns and inner conflicts. This is a challenging, rich and enlightening journey. The distinction between the two is not always clear in practice, as brief in-depth work is possible. 

As an Integrative therapist, I'm trained in a range of modalities, so I tailor my approach to suit your needs. I'm informed by several theoretical traditions, including humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioural and body-oriented therapy. Working with the body, I use techniques such as mindfulness, sensing, breathing, grounding and visualising.  Monitoring our embodied states is particularly important, since emotions are physiological events, created, felt and regulated through the body.  

I'm a relational therapist, which means our real relationship, and its exploration, will be part of our work. How you and I relate may mirror how you relate to other people in your life. This can be a significant area of enquiry. Relational work also means that I see us as two human beings in the room, not as one expert and one 'patient.' I intend to be honest, open and curious when I reflect with you. If I get it wrong, I'll be honest about that too, and see how we can learn and grow from it, as often this situation presents an opportunity for more intimacy between us. As a wise friend once said to me, I've learnt so much from my mistakes that I plan on making some more!  

I don't take the 'blank screen' approach, meaning I don't stare at you in silence. If I don't share my thoughts with you, the therapy is only taking place in my head. I provide a non-judgemental and loving space, where I value you for the unique individual you are. This kind of environment can be rare to find, and powerful to experience. Clients have said that they feel cared for and supported by me, and that they've made important discoveries and gained fresh insights.  

© 2019 Mary-Claire Wilson