HOW I WORK

Often the word ‘therapy’ is used whether you're seeking counselling or psychotherapy. Counselling might initially address a current or specific concern, such as a work or relationship difficulty. The process is still one of careful listening and dialogue. Often, a current concern will have links with past experience. Psychotherapy involves meeting once a week or more often, long-term or in an open-ended way. It explores the rich tapestry of your life from childhood onwards, and looks deeply within to uncover unconscious patterns and conflicts.

There are no guarantees as to what will result from therapy. It can be an enlightening and challenging journey, introducing a range of new perspectives and possibilities, and interrogating some of your assumption, beliefs and behaviours. New ways of being can be daring and demanding for you and for those around you. Please be aware that insight and change can be unsettling processes as well as desired outcomes. Some patience and bravery may be required from you, through which I'll support you to the best of my ability.

I'm trained in a range of modalities, so I tailor my approach to suit your needs. I'm informed by humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioural, transpersonal, existential, developmental and body-oriented theories. Monitoring our embodied states is particularly important, since emotions are physiological events, created, felt and regulated through the body.

I'm a relational therapist, which means an exploration of our relationship will likely be part of our work. How you and I relate may mirror how you relate to other people in your life. This can be a significant area of enquiry. Relational work also means that I see us as two human beings in the room, not as one expert and one 'patient.' I intend to be honest, open and curious when I reflect with you. If I get it wrong, I intend to be honest about that too, and see how we can learn and grow from it, as often this situation presents an opportunity for more intimacy between us. As a wise friend once said to me, I've learnt so much from my mistakes that I plan on making some more!  

I don't take the 'blank screen' approach, meaning I don't stare at you in silence. If I don't share my thoughts with you, the therapy is only taking place in my head. I provide a non-judgemental and loving space, where I value you for the unique individual you are. This kind of environment can be rare to find, and powerful to experience.

© 2021 Mary-Claire Wilson